A Man's Right to Lie

A man needs to learn for himself what it means to be in integrity. He has to break integrity to learn that it doesn’t feel good to break integrity, even though it’s his right to break integrity. 

A man has the right to secrets. But he must choose, because he realizes it’s not his highest manifestation, to not lie. This is growing towards God. But if the body lies and feels bad, but his ego has other wounding that keeps him fixated on maintaining his right to the lie, then a major schism get’s built in that man. He continues to make actions that hurt his own sense of manliness, but get’s further away from that clarity, and his sense of manliness get’s replaced by his lower need to protect his rights to lie. 

The path should unfold that the man lies about something to his wife, he feels shame, realizes he shouldn’t, and he stops... not because he’s told not to, but because it doesn’t feel right within himself to live in that lower-dimension of life. Wounding around boundaries will keep a man protecting his right towards his lower dimensional right to lie.

Lying is an important part of ego development as a child. It says “I have the right to create my own story for life”. But of course, we can see that someone’s right to maintain their own story for life can bump up against the society’s need to have some coherent container that all people work with. The collective development is extremely important. When we learn to lie, it is our way of deeply learning that we have agency in our life. If a parent too quickly cut’s a child off from their ability to create a self-narrative/ have their own agency, then that child grows up forever needing to please others because they don’t have a firm sense of self.

But once that sense of self is developed in a healthy one, one must forfeit their right to lie to the larger good. Aka, being in alignment with God, something bigger than themselves.